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Building A Community For The Hurting: My Thoughts On The Death Of Kate Spade

Hey Friends,

I know by now you’ve probably heard the news about iconic fashion designer Kate Spade’s death.

Another life, another destiny, another future, snatched away by the lies of suicide.

My heart is completely broken.

Every single time I hear about another suicide, my heart breaks a little more each time. Maybe because I know what it’s like to not see a way out. I know what it’s like to contemplate if continuing to live is really worth it. I know what it’s like to be surrounded by people and still feel alone. I know what it’s like to feel like things will never get better. I know what it’s like to go through a mental war.

My heart breaks because every time I hear about a person who decided to believe the lies of suicide, I think about a person who was too weak to fight this excruciating battle alone. I think about a person who just needed someone to go the extra mile and remind them over and over again, even when it becomes annoying, that life IS worth living! I think about a person who would have probably overcame suicidal thoughts if people like you and I would’ve paid more attention. If we would’ve loved more. Showed kindness more. Encouraged more. Smiled more. And even listened more.

I don’t know about you but every time I hear about a person who decided that death was better than life, I think about the areas in my life where I fail to really show the love of Christ, causing people to choose death over life. I think about those times when instead of asking my co worker how they were doing, I decided to be selfish and stay in my own little world. I think about those times when I held back kindness from others because I allowed something little to ruin my mood. I think about how I unconciously ignored the brokenness of others because I was so wrapped in MY issues, MY life, and MY problems. I think about how I can be a better friend. A better daughter. A better wife. A better sister. A better niece. A better cousin. A better grand daughter. A better woman. A better person.

Mental wars aren’t meant to be fought alone. God delivers us so that we can go back and deliver other people! When we stand together and truly fight for one another, it becomes impossible for suicide to win! It becomes impossible for depression and anxiety to win! It becomes impossible for the affects of pain to win!

Maybe my heart is broken by this tragedy because when I first decided to start Woman: Redefined I created it as a safe place for women like Kate Spade. Women who, every single day, are going through a mental war. Women who can’t see a way out. Women who are too blinded by their pain to see the brightness of their future. Women who need a reason to live. Women who just  need love and support above anything else. Women who can admit that they can’t overcome this mental war alone.

Through Woman: Redefined I’m committed to preventing another life, another destiny, and another future from being snatched by the affects of what seems like an excruciating, never ending battle.

When we as women stand together and fight together INCREDIBLE things happen! Lives are changed, destinies are reversed, battles are won, people are transformed, and God gets the glory!

Let’s stand TOGETHER!


If you’re a woman who’s going through a mental war I want you to know that you’re not alone.

We love you. We see you. We support you.💜💜

 

2 thoughts on “Building A Community For The Hurting: My Thoughts On The Death Of Kate Spade

  1. I love the spirit of friendship and self-sacrifice behind this article! I agree that we are asked by God to go the extra mile for those placed in our lives. It is also important to remember to hand over those people and relationships to him daily, so that we remember he carries the weight of our righteousness as the author (and finisher!) of our faith. We cannot perfect the lives or faith of others no matter how pure our intentions. I especially appreciate the line, “I know what it’s like to be surrounded by people and still feel alone.” This is important for those families and friends grieving a suicide, asking whether they did enough. If they showed God’s love and did whatever that required, they did everything he asks us to do. Because the mental war was lost by a loved one does not mean all who surrounded that person with love and support be defeated also. Thank you for sharing your heart! This is beautifully written and clearly comes pfrom a place of deep knowing.

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    1. Hey, Rachel
      Thanks so much for reading and sharing your thoughts! I love that you mentioned that we have to hand those people and relationships over to the Lord daily. I think sometimes we forget that HE’S the healer not us! It’s important that we continue to point people back to Him and not ourselves. Only HE can truly deliver and set free! Thanks again for reading😊

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